Plans changed again and we were unable to go on the bus trip to the Agri-turismo. It turned out to be Saturday, not Sunday, and we already had a full day planned for Saturday but, the neighbors were able to come to Sunday lunch.
So we debated what to prepare: traditional American comfort food (meat loaf, mashed potatoes and gravy, green beans), or, Sour Cream Chicken Enchiladas. Hm.
So we opted for a Mexican meal: Sour Cream Chicken Enchiladas, Ensalada de Nopalitos, Refried Beans, Red Rice and Sangria. Johnnie made Molten Lava Cake for dessert.
It turned out good, even though I had to substitute several ingredients that I cannot find in Italy. I used Gouda instead of Cheddar Cheese, Mascarpone Cheese with lemon juice and a bit of salt added instead of sour cream, flour tortillas instead of corn, and Formaggio Caciotta with pepperoni instead of Chihuahua cheese. The refried beans I made from scratch from dried pinto beans a friend from the US brought me, and the nopales were from a jar.
Do you know what was the favorite of our Italian friends? The refried beans! They had seconds and thirds. This was the first time I made it from dried beans, and I was pleased that it turned out so good. I may never use canned refried beans again.
The entire afternoon was very enjoyable and we talked about many things, including our children, our gardens, and plans for the summer. It was a typical Italian mid-day meal, long, slow, and savoring life in the moment. In the company of these lovely people, language was not a barrier. We communicated beautifully and when there was a point when we couldn't find the right words, we got out the Italian-English dictionary.
Here are a couple of my recipes I will share.
Sour Cream Chicken Enchiladas (recipe from Rancho Encantado, Santa Fe, New Mexico)
3 1/2 c. sour cream (I used Mascarpone thinned with the juice of a lemon and a little bit of salt)
3 5 oz. cans boned chicken (2 cups)
2 4 oz. cans mushrooms, stems and pieces, drained (I used fresh mushrooms)
1 4 oz. can green chiles, chopped
1/3 c. onion flakes (I used fresh onion, diced about 1/2 cup)
1/2 tsp. salt
1/4 tsp. pepper
1 tsp. chili powder
1/2 tsp. garlic powder
1/3 lb. cheddar cheese, grated (I used Gouda)
12 corn tortillas (I used 8 8 inch flour tortillas)
In a 13 x 9" pan spread 1 cup sour cream, set aside. In a 2 qt. saucepan with fork flake chicken; add 1/2 cup sour cream, mushrooms, chiles, onion flakes, chili powder, salt, garlic powder and pepper. (Since I used fresh mushrooms and onion, I sautéed them first in a skillet with a little olive oil, then added to the chicken mixture). Cook over low heat until heated through. Preheat oven to 450 degrees F. In a skillet over medium heat, in 1/2 inch hot oil, fry tortilla, a few seconds on each side until it softens. ( I warmed the flour tortillas in the microwave which makes them soft enough to roll without frying in oil). For enchiladas along center of tortillas, spread 1/4 cup chicken mix. Fold sides of tortillas over filling and place seam side down. Repeat, making 11 more. Spread with remaining sour cream, then sprinkle with cheese. Bake 8 min. or until cheese melts.
Ensalada de Nopalitos - Serves 6
1/2 cup chopped onion
3 Tb. cider vinegar
2 Tb. lime juice
1/2 tsp. salt
Combine these, cover and let stand 1 hr. (I added a small chopped zucchini to this mixture to punch up the veggies).
2 lbs. uncooked nopales
1 large onion, unpeeled and cup up
1 head garlic, unpeeled and halved
3 cups water
3 Tb. sea salt
1 cup fresh cilantro sprigs
Wearing gloves, use a vegetables peeler to remove the thorns from the no pales. Cut nopales into bite sized strips. In a large saucepan bring 2 cups water and 3 Tb. salt to boiling. Add the unpeeled onion, garlic cilantro sprigs and nopales. Return to boiling, reduce heat. Cook uncovered for 10 min. stirring occasionally. Drain off liquid. Discard onion, garlic and cilantro sprigs. Return nopal strips to pan. Add the remaining 1 cup water. Bring to boiling, reduce heat. Simmer uncovered 5 min. or until tender. Drain. Rinse with cold water. Cool completely.
(I used nopales from a jar, simply drain and rinse).
8 oz. Chihuahua cheese, cubed (I used the Formaggio Caciotta with pepperoni)
1 tomato, seeded and coarsely chopped
1/4 cup olive oil
1/4 cup snipped fresh cilantro
3 Tb. snipped fresh oregano
In a large bowl combine onion mixture, cheese, tomato, oil, snipped cilantro and oregano. Add nopales, toss to coat. Serve with avocado slices.
Sunday, April 29, 2012
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
Coffee with our Italian neighbors
If you have been following the blog, then you will remember back in February when we first moved into the villa, and immediately got snowed in, our neighbors behind us invited us to a dinner party the first weekend we were here. It was a great time and we helped celebrate the birthday of the Signora. It was not long after that we left in a hurry for the US and really didn't get to say good bye or explain to them why we were leaving or where we were going. I asked our bi-lingual DSP to give a message to my landlady and asked if she would let them know.
Since we returned, we have waved a few times but haven't really talked with them. So yesterday we baked some zucchini bread and today we took it over to them with a note explaining what happened to us. I asked an Italian friend to help me write the note so it would be a really clear explanation, vs. my broken Italian which could miscommunicate (or google translate which sometimes garbles things too).
We had a nice visit -- she speaks some English, my broken Italian, lots of smiles and charades--all made for a fun time. She gave Johnnie a lesson on making Italian coffee while her husband toured me through his cactus and succulent garden. He is quite the gardener and has a beautiful yard.
They were glad to understand where we had gone. Apparently the landlady never told them so they were wondering, and were worried about us. Such nice people!
We invited them to lunch at our villa on Sunday but it turns out they have plans to take a bus trip with their garden club to visit an Agri-turismo near here. So, instead, we are going on the bus trip with them this Sunday. The Agri-turismo has many trees and flowers and then we will all have lunch there together. This will be another exciting adventure for us.
Stay tuned for the next installment of Touring the Agri-turismo!
Since we returned, we have waved a few times but haven't really talked with them. So yesterday we baked some zucchini bread and today we took it over to them with a note explaining what happened to us. I asked an Italian friend to help me write the note so it would be a really clear explanation, vs. my broken Italian which could miscommunicate (or google translate which sometimes garbles things too).
We had a nice visit -- she speaks some English, my broken Italian, lots of smiles and charades--all made for a fun time. She gave Johnnie a lesson on making Italian coffee while her husband toured me through his cactus and succulent garden. He is quite the gardener and has a beautiful yard.
They were glad to understand where we had gone. Apparently the landlady never told them so they were wondering, and were worried about us. Such nice people!
We invited them to lunch at our villa on Sunday but it turns out they have plans to take a bus trip with their garden club to visit an Agri-turismo near here. So, instead, we are going on the bus trip with them this Sunday. The Agri-turismo has many trees and flowers and then we will all have lunch there together. This will be another exciting adventure for us.
Stay tuned for the next installment of Touring the Agri-turismo!
Saturday, April 14, 2012
More Blessings and More Time of Reflection
Christ the Lord is risen today! Alleluia!
Hearing the familiar tune of one of my most favorite hymns, and being in worship service this morning is one of the best experiences!
Some thoughts that come to mind:
The gift of hospitality
Not everyone has the gift of hospitality. It is more than just inviting guests into your home. I think that is why it is described in scripture as a gift; some people have a special ability to really make people feel welcome and comfortable and "at home". Beyond just that, I think it also has to do with putting yourself in someone else's shoes, so to speak, and figuring out what would bless them. I also am beginning to understand the gift of hospitality extends to strangers as well, not just people you know. We know a special couple that extended huge hospitality to us while I was recuperating from the pneumonia by letting us stay at their house several weeks. Their hospitality is such that they have a wing of their home reserved for missionaries, and others that the Lord sends their way. Now that is hospitality!
Romans 12:13 Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.
I am praying that the Lord will increase my awareness of the meaning of true Biblical hospitality and my talents in that direction. It may not be my most strong calling but I always want to make people feel welcome and like they can call me anytime and say "hey, can I come spend some time with you?".
The gift of helps
Now this is one of those spiritual gifts that has always baffled me a bit. It seems so obvious we should all be helpful to each other and to strangers. God's Word gives us lots of instructions about sharing the good news, visiting the sick and those in prison, taking care of widows and orphans, and aren't those all "helps"? So why does the scripture specifically mention Helps as a spiritual gift and how is that different from what the Lord expects of all his followers acting out their faith?
1 Cor. 12:28 And God has placed in the church first of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, of helping, of guidance, and of different kinds of tongues.
Romans 12:6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your[a] faith; 7 if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; 8 if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,[b] do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.
We know some people that are very gifted in the area of Helps. These people just work in such a quiet, supportive way, without many people noticing, just continuing to do one act of kindness after another. We have such friends that have given us rides, kept us company when we were lonely, gone with us to appointments and to run errands when we need support, make phone calls for us, stop by for a chat, check in on us to see how we are doing, and so many other acts of Helps that it really is hard to even describe all of them.We had several invitations to stay with friends and other invitations for meals together, people who really reach and live out their faith through action.
Thank you Lord for gifting our friends with Helps, and for bringing them in to our lives at a time when we so needed help. I ask your continued blessing on them as they use their gifts serving others.
Blessing of special friends come for a visit
What a special occasion that friends come to see us thousands of miles away. We were so excited to have them and to be able to "show off" a little bit of our new home and country that adopted us (or we adopted it). The best part is when we all got the giggles driving around half lost (not totally lost) down around Ercolano, driving up roads that dead ended and we had to back down, honking back at the irate Italians who honked at us, and then, we found this really neat little restaurant and had a great meal there together. All this was pretty much in the pouring rain!
Anticipation of new growth and new beginnings in Spring
Sunshine, rain, and time to plant flowers and veggies and think about barbecues and long walks. Johnnie woke up to strange sounds outside the house the other day that turned out to be some sheep herder with his flock across the road grazing the tender grass.
Challenges of living in a new culture
We are entering a new phase of challenges being in our own home and having much more square footage to clean and decorate and organize and occupy. We also need to find new places for worship, shopping, hair salon, dry cleaning, post office, doctor's office, pharmacy, garden shop, etc. These things take time but are an important part of connecting with the community.
Major cultural accomplishments this week:
*We went to Ikea and managed to order two closets and some bookcases to be delivered to the house. This might sound like a small thing but, with the language barrier, it felt like a major achievement!
*Found two new restaurants in Mercogliano, the post office, and two garden centers.
*Found out how to pay our internet and sky tv bills - at the tabacci shop! Then setup accounts online in Italian, so we could see when the bill comes due and print it off!
*Got all my expense reports completed and submitted, and, filed the insurance claim form for the stuff damaged in the move
*Johnnie had his first tutored language lesson and that was a bust. Oh well, we'll try again.
Hearing the familiar tune of one of my most favorite hymns, and being in worship service this morning is one of the best experiences!
Some thoughts that come to mind:
The gift of hospitality
Not everyone has the gift of hospitality. It is more than just inviting guests into your home. I think that is why it is described in scripture as a gift; some people have a special ability to really make people feel welcome and comfortable and "at home". Beyond just that, I think it also has to do with putting yourself in someone else's shoes, so to speak, and figuring out what would bless them. I also am beginning to understand the gift of hospitality extends to strangers as well, not just people you know. We know a special couple that extended huge hospitality to us while I was recuperating from the pneumonia by letting us stay at their house several weeks. Their hospitality is such that they have a wing of their home reserved for missionaries, and others that the Lord sends their way. Now that is hospitality!
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| Staying with friends in Everett - we do wish they would have arranged a little warmer weather! |
I am praying that the Lord will increase my awareness of the meaning of true Biblical hospitality and my talents in that direction. It may not be my most strong calling but I always want to make people feel welcome and like they can call me anytime and say "hey, can I come spend some time with you?".
The gift of helps
Now this is one of those spiritual gifts that has always baffled me a bit. It seems so obvious we should all be helpful to each other and to strangers. God's Word gives us lots of instructions about sharing the good news, visiting the sick and those in prison, taking care of widows and orphans, and aren't those all "helps"? So why does the scripture specifically mention Helps as a spiritual gift and how is that different from what the Lord expects of all his followers acting out their faith?
1 Cor. 12:28 And God has placed in the church first of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, of helping, of guidance, and of different kinds of tongues.
Romans 12:6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your[a] faith; 7 if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; 8 if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,[b] do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.
We know some people that are very gifted in the area of Helps. These people just work in such a quiet, supportive way, without many people noticing, just continuing to do one act of kindness after another. We have such friends that have given us rides, kept us company when we were lonely, gone with us to appointments and to run errands when we need support, make phone calls for us, stop by for a chat, check in on us to see how we are doing, and so many other acts of Helps that it really is hard to even describe all of them.We had several invitations to stay with friends and other invitations for meals together, people who really reach and live out their faith through action.
Thank you Lord for gifting our friends with Helps, and for bringing them in to our lives at a time when we so needed help. I ask your continued blessing on them as they use their gifts serving others.
Blessing of special friends come for a visit
What a special occasion that friends come to see us thousands of miles away. We were so excited to have them and to be able to "show off" a little bit of our new home and country that adopted us (or we adopted it). The best part is when we all got the giggles driving around half lost (not totally lost) down around Ercolano, driving up roads that dead ended and we had to back down, honking back at the irate Italians who honked at us, and then, we found this really neat little restaurant and had a great meal there together. All this was pretty much in the pouring rain!
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| Tres amiche before departure |
Anticipation of new growth and new beginnings in Spring
Sunshine, rain, and time to plant flowers and veggies and think about barbecues and long walks. Johnnie woke up to strange sounds outside the house the other day that turned out to be some sheep herder with his flock across the road grazing the tender grass.
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| Johnnie is in the country now! Our neighbor grazing his sheep across the road |
Challenges of living in a new culture
We are entering a new phase of challenges being in our own home and having much more square footage to clean and decorate and organize and occupy. We also need to find new places for worship, shopping, hair salon, dry cleaning, post office, doctor's office, pharmacy, garden shop, etc. These things take time but are an important part of connecting with the community.
Major cultural accomplishments this week:
*We went to Ikea and managed to order two closets and some bookcases to be delivered to the house. This might sound like a small thing but, with the language barrier, it felt like a major achievement!
*Found two new restaurants in Mercogliano, the post office, and two garden centers.
*Found out how to pay our internet and sky tv bills - at the tabacci shop! Then setup accounts online in Italian, so we could see when the bill comes due and print it off!
*Got all my expense reports completed and submitted, and, filed the insurance claim form for the stuff damaged in the move
*Johnnie had his first tutored language lesson and that was a bust. Oh well, we'll try again.
Saturday, April 7, 2012
Blessings amidst difficult times
The last several months have been a challenge for us, difficult at times, and a few times we were ready to just give up. I have shed several tears in the past weeks and asked the Lord, "What are you doing? Why?"
My study of the Holy Bible and the teaching of my Christian faith remind me that "... we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." (Romans 8:28)
So as I reflect now, back on the past 6 weeks or so, I am able to see more clearly the blessings and good things that came out of this experience. I record in my personal journal my thoughts along the way. I am drawing from that to list here a summary of the good things.
My study of the Holy Bible and the teaching of my Christian faith remind me that "... we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." (Romans 8:28)
So as I reflect now, back on the past 6 weeks or so, I am able to see more clearly the blessings and good things that came out of this experience. I record in my personal journal my thoughts along the way. I am drawing from that to list here a summary of the good things.
Blessing of Unexpected precious family time
We were not planning on returning to the US until August, so it was great to have time with my sister and brother in law, even though for a sad reason. We ended up being at their house 3 weeks, which really was the longest time we have ever spent together. There was a lot of work during that time, going back and forth to my brother’s house, taking care of that business and planning the Memorial, but, it was time for a lot of good conversation.
Blessing of English-speaking medical help
There are many good doctors in Italy but the language barrier is always an issue, as well as being a struggle just trying to figure out where to go and how to negotiate through the system. So when I was not feeling great when we left Italy, and I was starting to get really sick about 5 days before the Memorial, my sister took me to ER on a Friday night. I agreed to go at both her’s and Johnnie’s urging. Sure enough the chest X-ray showed pneumonia. At least there was a name for how crummy I felt. Three hours later we returned home loaded down with medication. I am thankful for good medical care.
Blessing of learning more about my brother
Going through his personal affects, sorting out items for the Memorial, trying to figure out who to notify among his friends that are not in the area, and where he kept all his papers and accounts you get to know quite a bit about a person. Even though we were pretty close in recent years, there are sides to him I didn’t know before.
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| Joel and George with they new "baby" - espresso machine |
One surprising thing was the soft spot he had in his heart for family memorabilia. Mom had saved his school papers and plays he was in, music he wrote, newspaper articles, old photos and yearbooks, etc. He always said he didn’t care about that stuff and laughed at what a packrat I am when it comes to that stuff. So weren’t we surprised to find two large underbed boxes stuffed with memorabilia of the younger years.
We also found out how many young people he mentored over the years and how much admired he was for his help and his talents. So many people heard of the Memorial through the word of mouth, and we ended up with a full house. That was the testimony to the kind of impact he had. I know there will not be that many people at my Memorial!
Blessing of time for meditation and prayer
In total I was down for about 3 weeks in total, some days in the beginning in bed most of the day. As I improved some, I sat in the living room but still didn’t feel like reading, or sewing or doing much of anything. So I used that time for thinking, and for prayer. I can honestly say it was a huge blessing to be in prayer on and off all day long without interruption or my mind wandering.
Blessing of time with friends in Everett
During my three week convalescence in Everett, we were able to spend time with lots of our good friends and church family in Everett. Johnnie had several breakfasts and lunches with his fishing buddy. I connected with several girlfriends and got together with the former Boeing group several times. These were wonderful and encouraging times!
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| Dinner at Giorgio's |
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| Lunch at Applebees |
Blessing of time with our Monday night Bible Study Group
What a special group of people these are! We were amazingly blessed by getting to attend 3 Bible Studies! The first night they spent time praying just for us. The fellowship was a tremendous boost for us spiritually since we have not yet connected with a group in Italy.
Blessing of worship with our MVCC Church family
We were able to attend a Sunday morning worship service and praise the Lord together with them. We collected lots of hugs and encouragement. Also speaking that day was a visiting missionary from Russia. Many of the challenges he described about going to Russia to live are the same things we are finding in Italy.
Blessing of the Women’s Friendship Tea
I was able to attend the annual tea with the women of MVCC, friends and neighbors. One hundred women came together and had brunch and heard the story of one of our women and the how she has gone through tremendous spiritual growth in the past 7 years. That was very encouraging!
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| Jenny, Kristine, Elaine at the Women's Tea |
Blessing of meeting some new friends
During the course of cleaning out my brother’s house and planning the Memorial we met some very special people that were friends to my brother for many years and will be friends to us as well, in the years to come.
Blessing of kindness from strangers
One person who is a friend of a friend, volunteered to do a video recording of the Memorial. She will not accept any money for doing it, only asked that we make a donation to the fund of Amina Bowman, 9 year old girl in Bremerton who was accidently shot in school.
Blessing of kindness from Italian friends
Two of our new friends in Italy emailed us regularly to see how we are doing and when we are coming back. How precious is that! Many expats come and complete their two year assignment without ever making any Italian friends, so we are already hugely blessed! Our landlady at the villa had her maid come and do a walk through of our villa (at our request) to make sure everything was ok. She cleaned out the refrigerator of stinky stuff since we left in a hurry and had not done that. There was a power outage as well while we were gone, so I can just imagine what it would have been like to arrive home to that mess, if she had not this kindness for us. She also turned down our furnace which we had left on as well.
Blessing of time spent on the family history
With lots of extra time on my hands, I was able to spend hours working on the family history and family tree. Between the documents we found in my brother’s things, some new photos and materials our cousin sent, and my own research on line, we made good progress. I also connected with several other people that research our family name and started sharing information with them. We started a tree for Johnnie’s family also.
Now that we are back in Italy and life is returning to "normal" (whatever that is!) I have gained a new appreciation for an easy rhythm of daily activities that is full of the joy of everyday living. I wouldn't trade the difficult or challenging times because that is what makes us grow and gives us keen appreciation for the things in life we often overlook. But it is really nice to be home!
Now that we are back in Italy and life is returning to "normal" (whatever that is!) I have gained a new appreciation for an easy rhythm of daily activities that is full of the joy of everyday living. I wouldn't trade the difficult or challenging times because that is what makes us grow and gives us keen appreciation for the things in life we often overlook. But it is really nice to be home!
Saturday, March 10, 2012
Time of Reflection
Some of these thoughts I put in my eulogy for my brother. As I mull them over, I am refining my thoughts a bit and adding some things that occur to me in this process.
Where we are now
We are staying with some good friends in Everett for a few days until I am well enough to travel. After 3 weeks at my sister's house, it was time to give them some peace and let them resume their normal life, so we headed out yesterday afternoon.
I am still recovering from pneumonia and on a 2nd round of antibiotics. I hope by the follow up next week, I am released to travel. I am doing better though still coughing and sounding nasty, and still very tired, so from my perspective, I need a few more days to rest up for the arduous trip. The best flights available still make it about a 20 hr. trip door-to-door, so that is beyond me at present.
The Memorial for my Brother
It was a nice service, went an hour longer than we planned but lots of people spoke and several shared musical numbers. That was fitting since his adult passion in life was always in the theatre and music area, even if he made his money other ways.
It is good for us to remember him in the many different and positive ways he impacted so many lives. I was most touched by the young people and his friends from Jr. High and High School that said what an encourager he was to them. He always pushed people to stretch themselves and dream beyond their circumstances.
We found a good home for Taita and his new owner even brought us photos to the Memorial to show us how happy Taita is. I know George would be happy too.
Lessons Learned
Where we are now
We are staying with some good friends in Everett for a few days until I am well enough to travel. After 3 weeks at my sister's house, it was time to give them some peace and let them resume their normal life, so we headed out yesterday afternoon.
I am still recovering from pneumonia and on a 2nd round of antibiotics. I hope by the follow up next week, I am released to travel. I am doing better though still coughing and sounding nasty, and still very tired, so from my perspective, I need a few more days to rest up for the arduous trip. The best flights available still make it about a 20 hr. trip door-to-door, so that is beyond me at present.
The Memorial for my Brother
It was a nice service, went an hour longer than we planned but lots of people spoke and several shared musical numbers. That was fitting since his adult passion in life was always in the theatre and music area, even if he made his money other ways.
It is good for us to remember him in the many different and positive ways he impacted so many lives. I was most touched by the young people and his friends from Jr. High and High School that said what an encourager he was to them. He always pushed people to stretch themselves and dream beyond their circumstances.
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| George Lance Gilbert with Taita |
Lessons Learned
First, don’t lose those important connections you make during your life from neglect or because you are “too busy”. Nurture those friendships. Don’t worry about what other people will think of you or what a success (or not) you are in life. True friends don’t care if you are working at McDonalds; they don’t care what you look like or what kind of car you drive.
Second, define success in your life by the relationships you have, not by your accomplishments. It's all about the people! When we work so hard to accomplish something in our work, we are prone to sacrifice health, family, relationships, and all else. This is such a problem of the American culture. I am as prone to this tendency as my brother was; we jump in to our work with whole-hearted involvement but we can let it overwhelm us and crowd out the most important things in life. I feel this is a huge life lesson for me right now.
Third, when you get into hard times, don't be afraid to let people know when you need help. Oh I know for most of us, pride gets in the way. Also, we don't want to be a burden or bother to our family and friends. But, when it reaches a point that you really need help, you need to be very clear and shout out to your people so they don't miss the message. I was shocked to see how difficult my brother's situation had become; maybe I should have been better at reading the signs and listening to what wasn't being said. I know I could have been more help than I was. It would not have changed the number of his days, but it could have made the quality of the life before that better.
Finally, say "I love you" to the people around you. Express your appreciation, your admiration and give hugs freely. I love the fact that Italians are so expressive. They hug, they kiss, they link arms when they walk, they focus on each other with total attention when they talk, like there is nothing else in the world but the two of you. We need to be deliberate about this; don’t postpone it, or wait for the “right moment”. Just say I love you!
Friday, March 2, 2012
Keeping Perspective
Lord what are you doing now?
I am having trouble writing this blog because I feel at a total loss for words. It still doesn't feel real just yet that my brother is gone -- passed away suddenly on 2/16/2012 of a heart attack at age 51. I am in WA now, after a quick packing and flight over. My sister and I and our ever-patient, ever-supportive husbands are at our sides, removing personal belongings from his house, making arrangement for the cat, the memorial, etc.
Three weeks ago we were dealing with moving, electrical and plumbing problems at the villa, and hosting my daughter for a visit to Italy. That seemed like the all-consuming issues of the day, and all of a sudden, our world turns upside down and all that stuff seems insignificant.
Lord, with all we have been through with my brother, I don't understand why you took him now? He missed seeing and understanding how many people love him, how important he was to so many people, what a huge contribution he made to the music and fine arts community in Bremerton and Silverdale, and how many young people he mentored that just totally admire his talent and skill, and most importantly, he missed the key thing which was none of those people cared whether he was "successful" at the coffee shop business or not; that doesn't matter to any of his friends and family, only to him was it so important to be "successful".
I am having trouble writing this blog because I feel at a total loss for words. It still doesn't feel real just yet that my brother is gone -- passed away suddenly on 2/16/2012 of a heart attack at age 51. I am in WA now, after a quick packing and flight over. My sister and I and our ever-patient, ever-supportive husbands are at our sides, removing personal belongings from his house, making arrangement for the cat, the memorial, etc.
Three weeks ago we were dealing with moving, electrical and plumbing problems at the villa, and hosting my daughter for a visit to Italy. That seemed like the all-consuming issues of the day, and all of a sudden, our world turns upside down and all that stuff seems insignificant.
Lord, with all we have been through with my brother, I don't understand why you took him now? He missed seeing and understanding how many people love him, how important he was to so many people, what a huge contribution he made to the music and fine arts community in Bremerton and Silverdale, and how many young people he mentored that just totally admire his talent and skill, and most importantly, he missed the key thing which was none of those people cared whether he was "successful" at the coffee shop business or not; that doesn't matter to any of his friends and family, only to him was it so important to be "successful".
Thursday, February 23, 2012
A New Chapter Begins
Settling In
With Michelle's good decorating eye, we arranged furniture this week, purchased many of the accessories for the villa this week, and reorganized cupboards and closets for more convenience. We are far from done but feel like a lot has been accomplished:
Towel racks for all the bathrooms
Dishes and racks for the kitchen
Several light fixtures for the bare bulbs
TV stand
Coat rack
Computer printer
File cabinet for office
Clothes hampers, ironing board
Bathrugs
Johnnie has shoveled more snow off every day and cleared a double wide parking spot, and now the access to the side gate and driveway as well. It is slowly melting and we have had very little new snow.
De-bugging
We are still having intermittent electrical problems where the lights all dim when the heaters kick on, and then on occasion, the main breaker trips and turns off everything in the house. This happened on Wed. night when the breaker kept tripping and we finally just went to bed because the electricity wouldn't stay on. Our DSP had the expert electricians out the next day to try and figure out what is going on, but they were unsuccessful. They say the 25 AMP switch is adequate, and when they turned on all the appliances, heaters and lights, the breaker was fine. It is a mystery and we are under instruction to phone day or night when it happens again and to note what is plugged into what outlets at the time it occurs.
The plumbers were out twice again this week trying to fix the hot water in the shower. It is sometimes hot, sometimes lukewarm, and sometimes is cold. Supposedly the hot water system is separate from the water radiators so should not be affected by the time of day we shower. To date I have not had one hot shower in 2 weeks (been finally finding a use for those bidets!), however I have had two lukewarm showers and one lukewarm bath. They worked on the system all day yesterday, ripped out the shower wall and replaced the mixer behind the tile so hopefully that fixes it.
There are still other things that remain to be installed or fixed but at this point, we are putting things into priority and tackling them one at a time!
US Electrical appliances
An important learning if you move to a place with different electrical current: don't bother to bring your small appliances from home. It is not worth the time or trouble. We have some things like table lights, iron, clock radios, room fresher, etc. that we brought from home and they will all go back in the box. It is not worth buying the power converters -- even the low watt ones are $20+ each -- to use on each one when you can replace the appliance for close to that amount of money. The only things that are worth bringing and buying the power converters are those things that are big items like my electronic sewing machine (which you can't even buy in Italy) and perhaps some power tools. That would be different for each person what is important to them but for us, there is very little that is not replaceable.
What would I do differently
So we had a lot of advise from different people and a lot of the advise depends on what kind of living space you end up having in Italy. Well, we didn't know where we would live when the movers came so we were guessing on what would be needed. As it turned out, we have a villa larger than our home in Everett and it is very empty right now because we only shipped bare minimum furniture.
We also had advice that said, don't ship a lot of knick knacks and paintings, etc. because you will buy that while you are in Italy. Well, that may be true, but it takes time to acquire those things and in the meantime, your house feels stark and like a hotel. I wish I would have brought more of my own paintings, photos, and decorative pieces so it feels more like home.
Bring more:
Decorative items - our house feels bare and the walls are empty
Linens - bedding, towels (Italian linens are not available in King size and in general, you will pay a lot more for high quality thread count sheets, and high quality soft towels)
All season clothes - who said it doesn't snow in Southern Italy?
Leave behind:
Table lamps
Small appliances (basically, anything that is not 220/240 volt)
Books I am not going to read in the next year
With Michelle's good decorating eye, we arranged furniture this week, purchased many of the accessories for the villa this week, and reorganized cupboards and closets for more convenience. We are far from done but feel like a lot has been accomplished:
Towel racks for all the bathrooms
Dishes and racks for the kitchen
Several light fixtures for the bare bulbs
TV stand
Coat rack
Computer printer
File cabinet for office
Clothes hampers, ironing board
Bathrugs
Johnnie has shoveled more snow off every day and cleared a double wide parking spot, and now the access to the side gate and driveway as well. It is slowly melting and we have had very little new snow.
De-bugging
We are still having intermittent electrical problems where the lights all dim when the heaters kick on, and then on occasion, the main breaker trips and turns off everything in the house. This happened on Wed. night when the breaker kept tripping and we finally just went to bed because the electricity wouldn't stay on. Our DSP had the expert electricians out the next day to try and figure out what is going on, but they were unsuccessful. They say the 25 AMP switch is adequate, and when they turned on all the appliances, heaters and lights, the breaker was fine. It is a mystery and we are under instruction to phone day or night when it happens again and to note what is plugged into what outlets at the time it occurs.
The plumbers were out twice again this week trying to fix the hot water in the shower. It is sometimes hot, sometimes lukewarm, and sometimes is cold. Supposedly the hot water system is separate from the water radiators so should not be affected by the time of day we shower. To date I have not had one hot shower in 2 weeks (been finally finding a use for those bidets!), however I have had two lukewarm showers and one lukewarm bath. They worked on the system all day yesterday, ripped out the shower wall and replaced the mixer behind the tile so hopefully that fixes it.
There are still other things that remain to be installed or fixed but at this point, we are putting things into priority and tackling them one at a time!
US Electrical appliances
An important learning if you move to a place with different electrical current: don't bother to bring your small appliances from home. It is not worth the time or trouble. We have some things like table lights, iron, clock radios, room fresher, etc. that we brought from home and they will all go back in the box. It is not worth buying the power converters -- even the low watt ones are $20+ each -- to use on each one when you can replace the appliance for close to that amount of money. The only things that are worth bringing and buying the power converters are those things that are big items like my electronic sewing machine (which you can't even buy in Italy) and perhaps some power tools. That would be different for each person what is important to them but for us, there is very little that is not replaceable.
What would I do differently
So we had a lot of advise from different people and a lot of the advise depends on what kind of living space you end up having in Italy. Well, we didn't know where we would live when the movers came so we were guessing on what would be needed. As it turned out, we have a villa larger than our home in Everett and it is very empty right now because we only shipped bare minimum furniture.
We also had advice that said, don't ship a lot of knick knacks and paintings, etc. because you will buy that while you are in Italy. Well, that may be true, but it takes time to acquire those things and in the meantime, your house feels stark and like a hotel. I wish I would have brought more of my own paintings, photos, and decorative pieces so it feels more like home.
Bring more:
Decorative items - our house feels bare and the walls are empty
Linens - bedding, towels (Italian linens are not available in King size and in general, you will pay a lot more for high quality thread count sheets, and high quality soft towels)
All season clothes - who said it doesn't snow in Southern Italy?
Leave behind:
Table lamps
Small appliances (basically, anything that is not 220/240 volt)
Books I am not going to read in the next year
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